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Why do children have tantrums?
Tantrums are a normal part of child development in their Early Years. They are the way young children (toddlers/Preschoolers) show they're upset or frustrated. Tantrums may happen when kids are tired, hungry, or uncomfortable; or because they can't get something (for example, an object or a parent) to do what they want.
Tantrum Tactics and Tips
Speak soothingly, try to relax. Children play off your emotions. As difficult as the situation may be, try and let your muscles go.
Your child's first day at nursery or playgroup can be a daunting prospect for both you and him. Child will show tantrums as they are exposed to new atmosphere. But our advice will help to ensure that his experience of nursery/Daycare or playgroup is a happy one from the start. It will be easier for your child to settle at preschool if you've gradually got him used to being left with other carers, such as grandparents, relatives and friends. Start off by leaving him for short periods - an hour while you go shopping, for example - and then gradually build it up until your child is happy to be left for a whole morning or an afternoon without you.
- Aim for some happy, relaxed times every day – reading a story, visiting the park, playing a game.
- Show a good example by remaining calm when times are stressful. This encourages your toddler/preshooler to do the same.
- Cut down negatives – constantly saying "no" will add to a toddler’s frustration. Instead, use phrases like ‘later’, or ‘after lunch’.
- Keep aware of new stresses (potty training, starting nursery) that may need more sympathy.
- Respect your child’s feelings. Feeling understood will reduce your child’s need for tantrums. Try saying "I know that makes you cross" or "that must have made you feel sad". Your child will see that their feelings matter and can gradually learn to put them into words, saying “I’m angry” instead of acting it out.
- Use positive parenting – plenty of praise and attention for behaviour you do want, trying to ignore as much as possible behaviour you don’t.
- Avoid harsh discipline – shouting and punishments only make tantrums worse in Early years.
- Use humour to defuse tricky situations – silly songs, laughter, making a game of tidying toys can all work brilliantly! A hug or a tickle at the right moment can also change a child’s mood.
- Most children do grow out of the need for tantrums when they have more language and understanding. But the way you deal with them in the toddler/Nursery age, years is important. If they are handled harshly, with responses like yelling and smacking, or if you constantly ignore their feelings and need for comfort, they may well become worse and carry on for longer.
And finally; patience, patience, patience!
Remember to always be consistent! And lastly never give in!